More Message Board Drama

My previous post detailed the drama on the quiltingboard.com message boards.  This isn't as funny or eloquent as my previous posts - I'm too upset...so just wade through the ramblings of someone who has their feelings hurt as best as you can......

After my original account was disabled by the moderator - and yes I'll name names - PatriceJ, I created another account to contact people I have interacted with over the last 4 months.  A few responded, others did not respond to my email address but may have responded to my "new" QB account - however, I'll never know as PatriceJ disabled that account as well. 

I then created a third account to file a complaint with Admin Talia Rose as the message boards state to do if there is an issue with a moderator.  No response.

Finally today, I received a response from PatriceJ as to why my account was disabled. 

She stated:  "Your membership has been cancelled for repeated displays of disrespect for our rules and policies, and for publicly disruptive behavior.  You compounded these violations by breaking back in to establish a rogue account.   You took it even further by using the rogue account to send SPAM.

 

Should you decide, upon reflection, that you would like to rejoin our community and can promise to behave as necessary and expected, I will consider the request."

 

I went shopping for fabric instead of replying right away. 

 

I'll post my response in a moment - but what struck me as telling of how right I am/was that this was a power trip for her was the last line of her email.....   "....upon reflection.....promise to behave....I will consider the request". 

 

I was left thinking "are you serious?".....

 

So my reply (yes it is a little long - but I am very wordy if you haven't noticed).....

 

"That explanation is inaccurate. 

 

1.  There was no disrespect for any rules or policies nor was their any public disruptive behavior.  I violated no tenants in spirit or to the letter of the board rules; policies; procedures nor the user agreements of the hosting web site.  You cannot prove that the post - which if you delete them are saved with screen shots - were disrespectful.  In fact, I clearly stated that I appreciated the board moderators and their volunteer status.  Furthermore, no policies were broken by any of the posts - the Twins Dilemma; nor the Personal Diaries post.  The statements you have made in your first line are inaccurate and without proof. 

 

In fact after your public chastising and very rude response and locking of the board, I removed myself and stated I wouldn't be posting any further and thanked everyone.  YOU assumed that it would turn into something - you had the option of locking the topic but yet you deleted it in violation of the boards rules.  Fact, I attempted to disengage but still be  part of the community - you assumed I had other motives and deactivated my account - a deactivation which again violates the rules of the board. 

 

In fact quiltingboard.com's own message board rules clearly state:  "...then don't take it personally. If there is some serious problem, then the moderators are going to PM you and explain what they think about your post and why it was deleted. Most of the time, if some corrective action is required, we'll simply lock the thread and post an explanation of the reasons why it has been locked."

Furthermore, the user site agreement, clearly states:  "The Site may provide you and other users an opportunity to submit, post, display, transmit and/or exchange information, ideas, opinions, photographs, images, video, creative works or other information, messages, transmissions or material to us, the Site or others ("Post" or "Postings"). Postings do not reflect our views; and we do not have any obligation to monitor, edit, or review any Postings on the Site.".  You chose to monitor, edit and review and then delete and deny access without explanation and then upon demand provided an explanation which is inaccurate, inflammatory, libel and potentially considered defamation of character. 

 

I am allowed to post my opinions and ideas.  You decided I wasn't allowed because it was too negative for you. 

 

2.  I did not break into Quiltingboard.com and I suggest before you make such libelous statements - you re-think your position on that.  I registered under a different email address.  I did not misrepresent who I was and in fact clearly identified myself in what was called "PRIVATE messages" to people I have met on the board.  In fact, without proof of illegal activities quiltingboard.com moderators had no right to enter a section specific to me labeled PRIVATE.  Furthermore, there are no policies, procedures, rules or terms of user agreements that prevent registration on the board under multiple email addresses.  Upon your disabling of that user ID another one was created - again, clearly identifying myself and not in violation of any board policy, procedure or web site user agreement to send a complaint to the Admin.  Again, this statement borders or defamation of character as that term is defined under the law. 

 

3.  Since you disabled the account you have clear access to all PM's sent under texan1 screen user id.  That is not spam - those were private messages sent to people whom I have communicated with on a regular basis over the last 4 months.  I assure you that on this message board there is no way to send spam as there are no email address provided and the messages sent were sent by me directly to persons I know.  They were individual message - that is not the definition of spam.  Furthermore, there was no spam was sent from any personal email account I own either.  This statement is - like the other two - inaccurate. 

 

Each of your statements in this email explanation is not only incorrect but they are libelous and slander under those terms as created under the code of civil procedure for any state and border on defamation of character as that is defined under the law. 

 

Rather than treat me like an adult, you attempted to censor me and in those attempts you blocked my access and have now resorted to libelous and slanderous statements. 

I will make no such request promising to "behave" as I have not misbehaved.  In fact there are posters whom you did not move their posts to another section and there are certainly criticisms of this board in other places by people you have not disabled their accounts.  Your disabling of my account, violates your posted rules and your explanations below are without proof, I demand that access be restored - whether I choose to use that access will be up to me but given the facts the disabling of my account was inappropriate and without merit."  

 

I am very sad over all of this.  Yes, yes, yes, I know its a message board - you don't really know these people.....how can you let this affect you so much? 

Even my DH and I got into an argument over it.  He doesn't understand but to his credit he thinks she is crazy and to respond will possible create a situation which is dangerous.  I think he is over reacting but he actually said "she is insane and you are home alone all day".  I don't think he thinks of the fact that she lives on the West Coast and I live in South Texas and I know he is thinking of all the horror stories in the news of people who drove that far to hurt someone for no reason.

But I'm not worried about physical injury.  This is a "several fold" problem for me. 

I miss my "friends".  I miss posting and replying and interacting.  I miss getting feedback on my work.  Yes I know that I have only been outlawed for a short time but it feels like forever.  You know the first day you go camping and you have no cell service....you know you are going to die without it - well you know you won't but you feel like you will....that is how I feel right now. 

I also felt I had to respond.  In my volunteer job, I can't always say what I want - I have to be politically correct.  I can't correct people on the soccer message board or defend myself because we - the volunteers - are not even supposed to go there.  From January until about 3 weeks ago I have been bashed and attacked on the soccer message boards, without correction; with falsehoods and lies and have had no opportunity to defend myself. 

On the QB message board I could and intend to defend myself. 

It won't change anything.  It won't change PatriceJ's opinions or actions.  It won't change the fact that the entire experience has made it difficult to quilt today - the joy was sapped out of it.  It won't change the fact that I'll never go back and post - without a retraction and apology - which I won't get.  I have to accept her actions and her power trip but I won't do so without standing up for myself this time. 

I didn't post anything in the wrong spot.  I didn't post anything negative.  I have never been warned about posting incorrectly.  I have never been disrespectful to a moderator or any member of the board.  SHE IS LYING and the words on the pages prove it. 

I can't understand how it is so easy for someone to lie about this because they didn't like something and everyone Else's response is "let it go - its not worth it". 

Her words in her email - as they are lies - crossed a line legally - I'm surprised this doesn't bother anyone who is higher up then her.  The unknown part for me - I still don't know what I ever did to this lady...The only times I've interacted with her were to ask if I could sell some material that wasn't exactly quilting material - she told me no - and I thanked her. 

So now I have to decide....did I quilt for myself or did I do it to be a part of something...I can't decide...I think that I did it for myself (cuz I sure as hell haven't sold anything) but being a part of that community made it easier and more fun! 

***Those who have stuck by me during this - thank you.....***

I don't know...I don't understand people like this and as I said yesterday it is a form of censorship - the worst form of censorship! 

I'm sure I"ll get over it and move on - today I just don't feel like getting over it and moving on!